Listen to Bill Cosby describe “THE BELT!” on Russel, my brother, whom I slept with.
Many people decsribe normal discipline as having been hit with a belt.
What a lot of people don’t realize is there is a difference between abuse and discipline. Children need discipline.
A GOOD SPANKING WITH A SWITCH, BELT ETC NEVER HURT ANY CHILD....dr spock was read by to many libs therefore spanking or paddling was taken out of the schools....kids learned there was no punishment for wrong doing....
i always signed the permission form for paddling my kids in scholl and let my kids know it was signed....they never had to be paddled....
to few spankings is what is wrong with kids today....
Its called “Pain Association Conditioning.” You associate an unpleasant stimulus (a blistered butt) with an undesirable behavior. It works more often than not.
We never had to spank our kids, in terms of more than two whacks. Generally the threat (followed by the reality) of one or two good whacks on the butt became sufficient.
We were fortunate in that we have a family where I (the dad) AM the authority in the home as far as the kids know ... and so do their friends. They all know I have rules, there are consequences of breaking them, and I never ‘threaten’ ... only promise. If this, then that. Questions?
It has worked well through the years.
Some kids, for whatever reason, NEED/REQUIRE more direct and severe consequences in order to shape their thinking and bend their will.
My wife grew up in fear of being asked to “go cut me your switch”. They would try to run from mom or dad while being switched ... even though mom or dad had them by the arm. I never saw it, but it sounds kinda funny and my wife certainly has no ill effects from it.
In effect, the kids rule the roost. I see this plenty whenever I’m out in a public place. It’s frankly disgusting the way some children act in public with little or no discipline from their parent(s).
I’m not saying spanking is the preferred “go to” punishment in most instances, but children have to know that discipline is going to be more than they want to cope with.
The 6 year old in this article KNEW that pulling up the bulbs was wrong. That deserved a swat.
Dad's stupid statement : "It creates a fear aspect in it". That's the point! Consequences for actions.
Todd Mansfield said. "So then I'm making my decisions based on, 'Am I gonna get spanked?' I'm not trying to grow myself as a person."
What a loon!
If some of the pin-headed refugees from the 60’s that now occupy the White House had been spanked by their parents we might not be in the mess we are in now.
Finding this headline on FR this morning, two posts below was this article:
http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-chat/2547633/posts
Maybe if those parents had exercised some stricter discipline, they would have been able to account for their 12 yo child in the middle of the night, and the horrible incident would never have transpired.
I personally believe in putting the fear of God into children, and a deep respect for not violating the rules of the parents. Some kids are really easy to accomplish that with, others have a stronger will. That is the challenge of parenting, and it is not one size fits all.
And, at the end of the day, the child has to be held accountable for their actions.
I think I see the problem here.
1. Your kids are little beasts
2. Grandma has shown she is capable of hitting a kid in anger.
3. You left them ALONE TOGETHER.
I was consistently spanked the first five years of my life. I tried everyting there was to try—from digging out under the yard fence and escaping with my dog, to aiming for and hitting the neighbor girl in the head with a rock and laughing about it. I literally woke up at age five as an angel, my mom said. I had finally equated painful consequences with disobedience and misbehavior. I’m nearing 60, and I am eternally grateful to my parents for jerking their belts off or applying a switch to my obstinate little backside. I still tell my mom she’s the greatest mom on earth.
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