It’s big, it’s heavy, you can’t hide it even in baggy pants, it makes pants on the ground sound reasonable, weighs a whole lot, and just doesn’t work when carried concealed.
Yes, I have one, S&W 44 and Ruger Super Blackhawk, and yes I hand load them profusely — for hunting it has no equal. But at the end of the day, you wish it was lighter, even in a shoulder holster. Yep they make slightly smaller versions, in bear country probably a good thing.
With modern ammo a mini 9 is much more likable, and pockets rather nicely.
All in all, I agree with your assessment, butttt
In fact I prefer the reliability of my revolvers to the occasionally malfunctioning autos that some carry. As for 9 mm, if you want to stop a cat or a dog they are fine, but give me a .44 for stopping a human perp.