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Prayers for you, I can truly sympathize. :-|

If you are severely disabled, do you have a social worker that you can call to discuss your housing options? I know you said you can't have a room mate but you didn't say why. Maybe that is something that you could reconsider as the income could help towards your rent.

As for the loneliness, unless you are able to get out and be with other people, that's probably not going to be easily remedied. One thing that helps me get my mind off things that upset me is to dive into a project of some sort. It could be anything that interests you. A hobby, classes, books, television....depends on your abilities. Healthy escapes.

Good luck to you.

I had to read a whole new batch of replies after sending out my last post, so I’m way behind here!

My problem is LONELINESS. As I said, I can go weeks without seeing another human being. I live alone in a house in the country which is different than living in town or a city or in an apartment. I don’t see people. I don’t talk to people. Anyone would be lonely under those circumstances. In fact, there are untold thousands of seniors and disabled folks who are miserably lonely right this second. We are social outcasts.

I have no choice but to change my situation, and I will make sure there are changes relatively soon. My concern is LOSING what I love in the process.

Some of you don’t understand these things, or life with severe chronic pain. I hope you are blessed with good health until your dying day, I really do, but you don’t understand and hopefully never will.

Now I have to go back to the top of the thread again, hang on...

Thank you for the prayers and words of encouragement. The compliments on my writing were unexpected. It’s an idea I’d never considered, so thanks!

I’m going to answer some people privately but would like to answer a few questions openly real quick.

tired&retired, I’m in west Michigan. Ha! It’s actually a beautiful part of the country if you don’t need a job.

To answer several posts: I enjoy doing things for people. I know what is meant by “it’s better to be the helper than the helped” and “it’s better to give than to receive.” But I can’t do that when I don’t know any people. I do something for someone every time I leave the house, even if it’s just to hold open a door. I thrive on helping others, but I don’t know anyone to help.

I’ve come up with all sorts of ideas for meeting people. I even joined a senior dating site this morning. Maybe some old folks around here wouldn’t mind having a yung’un around for a cup of coffee.

I’ve been racking my brains for almost a year now on how I can meet people and make friends despite my limitations. Truth is, I’m a social outcast. “Oh, you’re disabled? Oh, you can’t go do this and that with me? Oh, you’re single? Oh, you don’t have kids? Oh, well that sucks. See you around!” and off they go. How many people like me do YOU have in YOUR life? Most people can’t be bothered, and that’s a simple fact.

There is Social Security Disability and Supplemental Security Income. All FReepers should know about these two programs cause they’re killing us! I get Social Security Disability. Social Security is for retired people. I’m retired - medically retired (meaning I’m done working), so I get Social Security Disability and Medicare, just like old people. Because I’m poor (was only 25 when I became disabled) I also get welfare: Medicaid and food stamps. I’m telling you this so that you understand the difference between programs that your tax dollars are paying for.

I’m only to post 49 and haven’t even checked my private messages yet, but I really need to take a nap for a while. I’ll have to PM people and stuff later. Thank you for the help (but keep it coming, I need ideas, and a virtual friend or two wouldn’t be so bad either.)