I believe this, with some modifiers:
There are many young men who are sweet and good and sincere, and they honestly fall in love with girls. They are capable of experiencing the most ghastly hurt, and after this happens once or twice it’s extremely hard for them to recover.
There are others who, because of some deficit in their rearing or something wrong in their heads, are far less empathic; from those first few dates, they treat girls as potential conquests, and they don’t fall sincerely in love. Probably somhe ething wrong with their relationships with their parents; it’s hard to generalize. But they aren’t hurt, or aren’t hurt much.
The former group of kind, sensitive men are far, far larger. The sad thing is that when an honest young man falls in love with rotten, manipulative women, or with women who are just unsuited for him and know it and break it off, repeated heartaches may make him cynical. After our wonderful IN-justice system gets done with him in “Family Court,” he may be bitter indeed and not want anything to do with relationships.
But couldn't the same be said for the majority of sweet, good, and sincere young women (who fall for rotten bums)? Your observations don't explain why young men should necessarily be more hurt by the dissolution of a relationship than young women are hurt.
Your observation makes sense as an explanation only if you implicitly mean that the proportion of "nice" young men is greater than the proportion of "nice" young women.
Regards,
Yeah, I’m one of those folks.
Been hurt, many, many times by gals who just didn’t and don’t care. It’s kind of funny now because the same gals who treated me like dirt all want to find out how I am because somehow I’m one of the decent folks who hasn’t married.
Sorry hun, that ship sailed 5 years ago when I was interested and you were too preoccupied with ‘finding yourself’. You believed I would be the security blanket ‘just in case’ nothing else works. Unfortunately you were wrong.
Don’t get me wrong, I like gals, and I very much want to be married. Just not to the girls of this generation. I’ve had very bad luck with them.