“Your post is over-reaching, over-emotional, and merely conjecture. And these kids will only continue to suffer for attitudes like that.”
Now you get to prove that my post is over-reaching, over-emotional and conjecture.
Do you believe for one minute that he ever told the kids the truth? Do you believe that he ever told the kids that he kidnapped them? Don’t you think that the kids would have searched out their mother? How about when they were disciplined by Daddy, and they believed it to be unfair. Don’t you think they would have sought out their mother? Why didn’t they search her out? Because they either believed her to be dead, or a monster.
Have you ever seen the lengths that adoptees go to in searching for birth parents that gave them up willingly?
If you knew that you had a parent that you were stolen from and that spent 15 years searching from you, because she loves you, wouldn’t you seek her out?
I don’t need to prove it. The post was off the wall in the first place. Unless you can substantiate any of the claims you initially made like how the dad made a mental “prision” for the mom, and the like, then don’t bother. You have an agenda to push, and it’s one based upon your own emotions, and not mine.
But to answer you, I was adopted by one parent. And I did spend years searching for my other parent (my mother had custody).
And at the age of 16, I went and met my father. However, like these children, I already had a life, and my biological father and I agreed that it would be appropriate to not change the situation, even though my mother had not been forthcoming with me, and had hidden his attemptes to contact me.
The problem is that I can look at this situation with greater objectivity, because I realize that emotions, no matter how powerful, of one party, can still be to the detriment of all parties involved. There is a phrase, “Two wrongs don’t make a right.” I hope you can see that. Because I have relatives (so, I know firsthand, besides in theory) who were forced to go back and live with a parent who they did not want to live with, at the receiving parent’s request, and no good came out of it. The children will only resent a parent coming back on scene years later, if they lock up the father at the same time. I didn’t say the man shouldn’t have to face “Justice,” but I am saying that this won’t give the kids any.