This girl doesn’t look 13 either.
A lot of it is how you present yourself. Even if she looks 16 but acts older, kids are just going to figure she looks young for her age.
My one daughter looks about 6 years younger than she is. There’s really nothing she can do about it.
My other daughter always looked about 4 years older than she is.
So, everyone thought the younger one was the older.
The self-confidence that most homeschoolers exhibit is what gives the impression of being older and is exactly what is going to keep others from trying to take advantage of them.
It isn’t just age that protects one socially, as much as self-confidence.
There is no way. I just can’t believe you cannot accept that a 13 year old who looks older is just not going to be a part of the crowd of 19-22 year old college kids. No way is it going to happen. I think I mentioned to another poster that at this age, these kids are going on vacations - cruises with other friends, they have very serious relationships; some are even engaged, etc. The issues are much more complicated. Some of them already even have children. Even if they meet the girl and she “looks” older, at some point, they will know and it’s just not going to work. It’s just natural. When I was 20, I wouldn’t have been having a 13 year old as my BFF either, and the 13 year old needs to have friends in her age group. It’s another scenario entirely if we are talking a 23 year old and a 29 year old, but frankly, I think that until people are in their 30’s, a six year gap is huge.