Gilbert Chesterton in Heretics tells us:
Those who wish, rightly or wrongly, to step out of all this, do definitely wish to step into a narrower world. They are dismayed and terrified by the largeness and variety of the family. Sarah wishes to find a world wholly consisting of private theatricals; George wishes to think the Trocadero a cosmos. I do not say, for a moment, that the flight to this narrower life may not be the right thing for the individual, any more than I say the same thing about flight into a monastery. But I do say that anything is bad and artificial which tends to make these people succumb to the strange delusion that they are stepping into a world which is actually larger and more varied than their own. The best way that a man could test his readiness to encounter the common variety of mankind would be to climb down a chimney into any house at random, and get on as well as possible with the people inside. And that is essentially what each one of us did on the day that he was born.
"...what each of us did the day that he was born." We can't pick our family members (or our ship mates in a life boat) and yet, as Christians (or others believeing in an Enduring Moral Order) we have to treat them in as our neighbor to be enobled ourselves.
Read Heretics. Learn that to be an Orthodox thinker is bold and not backward. Have Joy in yourself.
You don't need to straighten out others to share healthy thinking in general.
Happiness in not being "right" or making yourself or others happy but is instead a by product of right living. Russel Kirk said that the first priciple for conservatives is the belief in an Enduring Moral Order. That means such for man and for the nation. I doubt that AA believes in situational ethics. Try to concentrate on living your sober life in harmony with right living and the concepts of sober living you have been taught and forget about staightening out the rest of the world until you have your life back together.
Please vote with conviction but you have to realize that other people don't establish your confort level inside your own skin -- instead something within you is leaving that maleadjusted during these times when you are so frustrated with those you meet after being dropped down the chimney.
Thank You KC Burke. I will look for that book (Heretics) that you mentioned, I had not heard of it before.