Posted on 05/18/2010 4:58:08 PM PDT by jerry557
LONDON (AFP) – Divorce rates are lower in families where husbands help out with the housework, shopping and childcare, according to a study of 3,500 British couples published Tuesday.
The research by the London School of Economics (LSE), entitled "Men's Unpaid Work and Divorce", found that the more husbands helped out, the lower the incidence of divorce.
The study said its conclusions blew open the theory running since the 1960s that marriages were most stable when men focused on paid work and women were responsible for housework.
"The lowest-risk combination is one in which the mother does not work and the father engages in the highest level of housework and childcare," the study found.
Researcher Wendy Sigle-Rushton said economists have spent much time examining and trying to explain the link between women going to work and divorce rates.
"However, in doing so, they have paid very little attention to the behaviour of men. This research... suggests that fathers' contribution to unpaid work at home stabilises marriage regardless of mothers' employment status," she said.
(Excerpt) Read more at news.yahoo.com ...
No, I believe you are misinterpreting the findings. What they mean is that when the father comes home from his job and contributes very little to the ongoing housework and childcare, he is less likely to have his marriage survive than another man who comes home and devotes more hours to domestic duties. The report does not mean that he engages in a higher level of childcare and housework than his wife does; it means he engages in a higher level (more hours) than another guy.
Well around here I do it all by myself.
And when I as married I helped too.
I do it all by myself, too. It ain’t easy.
I feel yer pain LoL!
LoL!
My husband helps do alot of things around the house. not everyday but often. The thing that gets me is this: when I do a load of laundry or do the dishes I don’t expect someone to make a big dramatic ta-do about it. which is a good thing cause i don’t get it. But when my husband sweeps the kitchen floor i’m supposed to notice it, pat him on the back and praise the hell out of him and if i don’t he’s a little bent out of shape.
smart man ~LOL~ actually my husband did the laundry and vacumed and moped the floors, he loved to cook, but never did a dish in his life...over the years we just fell into a routine that worked for both of us.... oh, he enjoyed doing the grocery shopping and could tell you where the best prices in town were, which sort of reminds me of my grandparents, they always shopped together every Saturday... I didn’t shop with my husband, though.. I drove him nuts because I’m a label-reader.
I’ll tell you, though: I think the people who did this study confused correlation and causation. They suggest that men doing more housework has a positive effect on a marriage, which is probably the case; but on the other hand, if the man is getting some affirmation and thanks from a sweet wife and already has a happy marriage, he’s going to be more likely to help out. This seems not to have been considered (at least, not in the yahoo article).
They left out a lot of variables.
Thanks.
Here is the rule.
If someone went so far as to make and serve you dinner.
You clean your own plate when you are done with dinner.
That’s just courtesy. Whether you are a Man, Woman or Child.
I see a lot of expectations nowadays.
All around. And that’s just not right.
Just respect one anothers efforts and things should be fine.
I don't want my husband to do housework ... just to not sabotage it immediately.
And...if he can do nothing right (by her endless criticism) that is what he will learn to do: nothing.
If I do it I hide stuff from her, If she does it she hides stuff from me LoL you can never find stuff without a system LoL.
I have no idea where I put that pickle dish, and she has no idea where she put the drill. LoL
That’s right! People need to be appreciative of one another.
“So you see we are dumb, but we are not so dumb. It takes great thinking and work to keep from working!” - Bill Cosby
We spend lots of time looking for things at our house, too.
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