Welp, she couldn’t do much but make sense out of the chaos, but her reassurances and willingness to help (empathize) made a lot of difference.
She broke the entire thing down into bite-sized pieces that I could deal with, and I think that’s what I needed more than anything.
(And your {{{BVH}}} counted as {{{BVP}}} when it came to feeling better!! Thanks!)
YOu’re welcome. It’s raining here now. My neighbor Vicki brought over a dish of giant green tomato worms; it was gross. I took them back to her with some notes about how to get them off her tomato plants!