I read the stat that something like 87% of people that live together before marriage end in divorce. That is a freaking huge number.
Here is the deal ladies.... whatever a guy says, what ever you think he means, the bottom line is you have given him a disincentive to be committed to you when you give your body and your security to him before you are married. You robbed him of being a man. Of stepping into the role he is meant to have as provider and protector. That is part of his core identity. That IS who he is whether he cognitively recognizes it or not. Married men civilize nations. Can you see the lack of maturity in this nation? Can you see how people do not want to grow up? All of those are the fruit of men not having that back pressure to take their roles seriously in society.
Dads, it is YOUR responsibility how your daughters grow up and how they feel about themselves especially sexually. If you treat your wife like crap, be disrespectful, mock her in public, make her your “ball and chain” “old lady” Yo bitch
guess what identity your daughter will adopt?
Womens core outcome of their identity is security. If girls are raised with an ambiguous sense of security because dad walked out, then they will seek it in the bed of someone they “believe” will provide that security. So they will trade their bodies for a sense of security if you do not cherish them and their mothers as they grow up. YOU set the level of expectation for them. They will go after what is familar NOT what is best. You are the author of familiar gentlemen how will you write her history?
Walkingfeather
“she was living with her parents following a divorce from her first husband.”
This is all I have to say about this particular ‘example’.
I’m 28, not married, haven’t slept with anybody. Don’t see why it’s so hard to wait. Yeah I understand that it can be difficult for people who live in different parts of the country, but you do what you can. Rent a place for 6 months out there.
I know men and women who went through 3 or more live in partners (1-2 years each relationship). And yet they still consider themselves “never married”.
Beautifully done!