I have suffered (as you have) and the knowledge that my suffering was understood by others did nothing to alleviate the suffering.
Suffering is the battle front. Only those on the front lines can know.
Compassion is nothing more than a nice letter from home...
That said, I do appreciate your point of view in the discussion of this incredibly poignant matter.
The only reason I keyed in on that “Noun” was that I am grateful for the compassion given to me by my family and friends. It was a rough go some years back.
Pity on the other hand was never sensed.