[SnakeDoctor]

First, there is a scriptural basis for exhorting people to fully meet the needs of their spouse. But, you are right — if everyone’s satisfied, there isn’t a frequency requirement.

But ...

Second, marital relationships are almost never harmed by too much sex within the relationship. A quantitiative goal helps demonstrate the intimacy a relationship may be missing when the frequency has dipped.

SnakeDoc

[hellbender]

Sex is good, as is everything else God created for us. But nobody needs it the way we need food and water. If one partner willfully withholds sex from the other, especially to punish him/her or bargain for something else, that is very sinful. But suppose one person cannot physically provide everything the other wants? I've actually read of couples where there was no sex at all, due apparently to physical problems, yet they stayed together in love Agape love trumps eros every time in God's book. Husbands are called to love their wives as Christ loved the church, i.e. sacrificially and unselfishly. Certainly that's grounds for some self-denial. It's just hard for me to believe that today, in a culture obsessed with sex and drenched in sexual information, that anyone is still inhibited or embarrassed by it, as many were in the past. I think these ministers are falling for a worldly view tempting us to be dissatisfied with whatever it is we have.