Believe it or not, a .45 ACP is not a bad choice. My wife who has small hands, small wrists and is not “strong” carries and shoots a Kimber SIS Pro in .45 ACP.
Best thing to do is to go to a range, try revolvers and semis in a variety of calibers and let her choose something that she shoots well and is comfortable with.
Hoss.
That makes sense, and we’ll probably do some test firing. I’ve got access to everything except a 9, although I still think a .45 is a tad too big.
I have noticed, though, that kick isn’t just a function of caliber. Some .45s leave your arms in pain, while others have far less kick.