Individual handgun recommendations for semiautos are pretty much useless unless the lady can easily rack the slide and finds the grip comfortable for her hand. Everyone is going to recommend their own personal favorite.
I think the thing to do is take her to a gun shop and have her handle a variety of different guns. For girls, the size of the grip, weight, and slide stiffness are usually bigger issues than for guys.
She’ll be able to rule out alot of options and make a short list of contenders real quick just by handling a bunch of different guns.
So true, I wanted a Springfield XD in .45, but couldn't rack the slide. I do great with the Walther PPS, and it also comes with changable backstraps so you can get the best grip, depending on handsize.
I also had a Taurus PT 111 which I got rid of because of jams when I did limp wrist it, plus, depending on one's grip, the magazine would fall out because of the location of the mag release. I love the mag release on my Walther. It's in the trigger guard, so it's ambidextrous, and you can't accidentally drop the mag.