This is about you saying she didn’t contribute financially to the marriage and therefore not entitled to half.
Was your mother a stay at home mom/housewife?
For the record, I value stay-at-home mothers HIGHER than I do career moms (again, except in the extraordinary case of high earners like Oprah).
Indeed, maybe it would bring more clarity to the discussion of these issues to do so in the context of the Oprah-Stedman hypothetical I gave in order to get away from the husband vs wife or stay-at-home mom vs. career woman emotional hot buttons.