In the 1980s, the British band Mike and the Mechanics recorded a powerful song titled, The Living Years. The songwriter mourns his fathers death, because their relationship had been strained and marked by silence rather than sharing. The singer remorsefully says, I didnt get to tell him all the things I had to say. Struggling with regret over words unsaid and love unexpressed, he laments, I just wish I could have told him in the living years.
King David similarly regretted his broken relationship with his son Absalom. Angered over Davids refusal to punish Amnon for raping his sister Tamar, Absalom killed Amnon and fled (2 Sam. 13:21-34). Davids servant Joab knew that he longed to go to his fugitive son, so he arranged for Absalom to be brought to him. But their relationship was never the same again. Absaloms bitterness sparked a conflict that ended with his death (18:14). It was a bitter victory for King David, causing him to lament his lost son and their failed relationship (18:33). No amount of grieving, however, could undo Davids heartache.
We can learn from Davids regret when dealing with broken relationships. The pain of trying to make things right can be hard. But its much better to do what we can to make things right in the living years.
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“We can learn from Davids regret when dealing with broken relationships. The pain of trying to make things right can be hard. But its much better to do what we can to make things right in the living years._
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Psalm 116:9
“...I will walk before
the LORD in the land of the living....”
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