Why not just teach them self respect/confidence instead of self esteem? And encourage them to concentrate on their resumes instead of looks.
At about 18 for the boys, provided that they would be good providers, to the eyes of a 16 year old girl, the mating ritual began. The girl then would drag the unwilling target into the woods and let him ravish her, first blood is a Green Dress, the Diamond ring of the era. My Aunt, family researcher, mentioned that the Priest and the foaling were suspiciously close together, in the West of England. It is my understanding that those that dallied in the grotto of the same girl which expanded at the seventh or eighth month used to Draw Staws to preserve the Maidens honor.