Posted on 09/08/2009 11:27:48 AM PDT by JoeProBono
FOR every woman expecting the earth to move, there are two with more practical motives.
From relieving boredom, to keeping the peace or curing a headache, women have sex for many reasons but romance and passion come rather low on the list, a new book has revealed.
One woman even admitted to having sex just so her husband would put the rubbish out.
"Research has shown most men find most women at least somewhat sexually attractive, whereas most women do not find most men sexually attractive at all," Why Women Have Sex authors Cindy Meston and David Buss said.
Having apparently discounted physical attraction, the 1000 women interviewed by the Texas University professors gave a huge range of reasons for sleeping with a man.
One said she did it for a spiritual experience, proclaiming: "It's the closest thing to God."
But mostly the explanations were far more mundane, with 84 per cent admitting to having sex just to ensure a quiet life or to bargain for household chores. One woman said: "I have sex to relieve the boredom because it's easier than fighting. Plus it gives me something to do."
(Excerpt) Read more at news.com.au ...
HEY!!!!
This is IMPORTANT research!!!!!!!!
I am glad the truth of my words may have given you a little sunlight.
I am appalled about how long this post turned out to be so I’ll try to give a synopsis before the commencement of the post:
Synopsis: Yes, I believe women complain to me excessively about men because the women expected someone else to make them happy and did not know that happiness requires self-effort.
What follows is the shamelessly verbose post:
I too have noticed what you have. WHen I was a teenager, all I heard was how unhappy men made women. ANd I also heard that I would, as a young woman, possess all sorts of expectations of marriage that were impossible, unrealistic etc.
Then in my twenties, I heard that women are really better off without men. And I was told that I no doubt harbored all sorts of fantasies about how great men were and how marriage would ‘make me happy’ when it wouldn’t etc.
THen in my thirties (er...I don’t think I’ll keep this approach beyond listing my thirties..hah!) My married friends began to tell me how uncaring their husbands were, how disillustioned they were, how lucky I was that I wasn’t married, how they wished they were free etc. They would ‘tell all’ to me because I hadn’t married and thererfore they wouldn’t feel like a ‘failure’ in marriage talking to a women who never married (their status is above mine etc.) SO I became the secret repository for seemingly every married woman who wanted to complain.
Then...in my later years (hah!) married women would spontaneously tell me a) that it was ‘ok’ that I never married and b) how much they disliked men. They told me I was lucky that I never married and oddly enough....women still tell me that I simply MUST harbor unrealistically positive views about men and marriage. The next time one of these women says something like this, I just might abandon my mild tempermant altogether and shout HOW COULD I POSSIBLY HAVE UNREALISTICLY POSITIVE IDEAS ABOUT MARRIAGE WHEN MARRIED WOMEN HAVE BEEN TELLING ME FOR DECADES THAT IT’S MISERABLE?! I HAVE LISTENED TO WOMAN COMPLAIN ABOUT THEIR HUSBANDS AND BOYFRIENDS IN THE HARSHEST TERMS EVER SINCE I WAS TWELVE!
WHen I try to push back on the onslaught (i.e. the woman at the car repair shop who spoke to me, a captive audience, for entire hour about how a) I must think I need a man b) how she hasn’t needed her husband the 25 years that she has been married and c) that it is ‘alright’ that I never married, then I am told that if I had only married I would certainly understand how disappointing men are.
These assumptions are sometimes wrapped around what looks to me like a contempt for men. I honestly think that I encounter some women who view men as ‘security’ or ‘guard dog’ but not as men (people). I smile at them sometimes and say ‘but don’t you just enjoy men, really? Forget your boyfriend for a moment, you have to admit, there is nothing else like them, right? And if you are around only women for awhile, you really begin to miss the presence of men, don’t you? If they don’t understand what I am talking about, then I believe that they just don’t want to like men - as if it would lower their own competitive status.
But there are other women, the majority of the complainers perhaps, who have displaced all of life’s stresses and disappointments on men because in some way, they believed they would be unhappy until the ‘right man’ came along and MADE them happy. They didn’t know that they were supposed to try to be happy enough people so that they could, if they met the right person, share their happiness with him. Our society really focused on the Cinderella complex - even in the sexual revolution - so that unhappy women (oh and there are plenty of men that complain too) now view ‘boyfriend’ or ‘husband’ as a male of the species having the following job description: Make my wife happy because she never has been a happy person before!
I regret that men have seemed to notice as much as I have, I didn’t realize how aware they were until recently reading posts like these. I suppose many men aren’t happy with women either but then, they don’t quite make the public pilgrimage, like too many women do, to complain about the ‘one they love.’ I think with the men who complain excessively about women, you’d probably have to ask.
A good response to that is, "leave the money on the night stand."
When I saw your post I started to do our math, 30 X 365 as of September 15th then thought what about leap years and gave up. Congratulations btw.
Yeah I don't go for beer guts on women neither..;o)
Not only a myth...but propaganda as I said. Why would men pay for something women like anyway?
Dr. Niteflyr says: (and this comes from the likes of Dr. Toni Grant and Dr. Laura) Just because you see women in relationships with men all around you...they are married to men...been married for years...doesn't mean they LIKE men. If we all would all just accept the fact that more women than we might care to believe at their core really don't like men, and if men would avoid them like the plague and focus on those that really love men, we as men would be far better off. There are ways to tell...and believe me I've spent a lot of time and effort honing that skill. And it is worth the time believe me! Better to know right at the start you are taking on a battle you can never win.
Take for example this news item: Kelly McGillis...the hot blonde instructor pilot of Top Gun movie fame...just outed herself as a lesbian and stated: "I knew it pretty much at age 12"...then she proceeded to marry two guys (how'd you like to be in their shoes?) before deciding she preferred women?
And why are these women in relationships with men? Societal pressure...short life expectancy (men's)..and financial gain. ("damn pre-nups!") :o)
“It’s simple, if you get it, you will get it. Lots of men have no clue.”
I think this is true at times but when younger and ovulating women’s vaginas have a mind of their own
and some women do like sex...thank God for that small favor
but as we age, I am convinced the desire thing diverges much to the chagrin of fancy equalizing fembot notions
not to say they wilt away completely but the bunny in her 20s fades
i can’t speak for all men but I know plenty and there are guys like me who still have the urge like we always have more or less
* but I know a few who seem to care less
** pothead males seems less sexually driven to chase nani whether wifey or otherwise
no doubt men are honier than women overall...or at least up to the GenYs they were
men don’t have sex becasue they “have to”
not in the world i inhabit
that is because we aren't
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