My brothers....one I don't think did anything...the other I think did some of the sexual stuff. I really don't know. I was off in my own college world when he was in high school so I really don't know.
I can tell you this...if my parents would have said anything on what to do I would have blown them off. It just happened that I was naturally not an experimenter in the sexual or drug thing. I figured out early on that getting laid was not an achievement and that teenaged girls were by and large used....and I wanted no part of that.
So long story short, met the love of my life at 19 and we married a few years later......here it is coming up on our 23rd anniversary.
I was raised to be an atheist, too. I got into all kinds of insane trouble, I pretty much have to believe in Jesus - I should have been dead a hundred times.
I do think that people can be made to be “moral” without Christianity. I think it’s mainly done by tyranny in that case. Using cause and effect and coming down hard on anyone that doesn’t toe the line - no mercy.
Murder (except for the State?) Death penalty, quick march. Steal (except for the State?) Lose your hand, no real trial. Etc. You can get some fairly crime-free areas that way, unfortunately, innocent people suffer greatly at the same time.
The problem becomes then, what is moral?