Secondly, you're asking a lowly field enforcer (in NYC this often means a political patronage gig) to make perfect on-the-spot common-sense judgements based on nothing but instinct, which is just asking for FUBAR trouble, IMO.
Thirdly, anyone who assumes terrorists couldn't possibly cultivate romantic relationships with blonde-haired blue-eyed women with cute ten year old kids from previous relationships is being a bit naive, to say the least. Just ask Israeli Airport Security - they NEVER make assumptions of innocence based on age, ethnicity or appearance when ferretting out bomb carriers. I found that out firsthand, in fact. As a younger single european-american woman travelling to Israel about 8-9 years ago, I got stopped, searched & interrogated extensively both coming and going - not because they necessarily thought that I was a terrorist myself but because there was a chance I may have been targeted for 'romance' by an undercover terrorist back in Europe (from where I was travelling to the ME) and used as a mule to carry death & destruction for him unwittingly. Those guys never make assumptions of innocence about anybody for a good reason - they simply can't afford to.
Now if the girl & her Dad want to contest the ticket in front of a judge, and he wants to show mercy & dismiss the fine under the circumstances, that would be fine & dandy with me. That's how it's supposed to work - a judge weighs extenuating circumstances and judges. Then the kid gets off scot free & hopefully learns the very valuable lesson in the process (too bad her 49 yo father didn't before this) that no one should expect to be exempted from laws put in place to protect the public.
I dunno, I'm just very leery of giving NYC code enforcers themselves the freedom to turn a blind eye at their own discretion.