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I can only speak for myself, but I personally disagree with the findings in this study.

I was married for 21 years before I got a divorce. The first time I found out my ex was having an affair (with my nephew) I changed my mind about divorcing and, for the children, tried to make it work.

The second time I found out she was having an affair, it was from my sons. she was forcing them to keep her dirty little secret. The emotional damage to the boys, now men, is still evident today. I still regret not divorcing her the first time. Staying together “for the children” was a terrible mistake.

I have recovered financially, and I'm slowly accumulating a good “nest egg” for my future, and for my family. I am much better off now than when I was married and she was handling the check book.

Emotionally, I am still have a negative opinion of marriage, but try to keep it to myself around the kids, although they know how I feel about what their mother did to me. To us.

But I can say, positively, that I have a much better attitude, and am a much more cheerful person now, than when I was in an unhappy marriage.

Then again, this is a British survey, so it isn't all that relevant to American men, now is it?