I thank that folks dabble, both men and women, because they are missing a moral compass.
You see, I really don’t buy the “moral compass” argument, I truly don’t.
When a person finds themselves in a relationship, love doesn’t conquer all folks. That’s a fairy tale. I’ve watched many couples who loved each other very much, crash and burn.
A woman or man who denies sex to their partner, is going to wind up with a spouse who strays, not if, just when. A spouse that lets themselves go physically, not due to illness or disease, but just by refusing to take care of themselves to the point where their partner no longer finds them sexually attractive, will likely wind up having their partner stray.
If anyone in a relationship fails to make the effort and time to make their partner feel special to them, their partner will cheat, its not an if.. its a when.
I don’t think they do it because they lack the knowledge that its wrong, or that it could hurt the other person, its a matter of as creatures we don’t pair up simply to share an address, but to share ourselves... you fail to do that adequately, and your partner will find someone else to fill those areals that are neglected.
Men may stray more based on the purely physical side of things than a woman, but a neglected wife (even if not physically neglected) will find what she needs in the arms of another as well.
Way too many women today I feel have a false idea of what marriage is. Feminism has warped their brains... men generally want sex, and yes, they will respect your desire to say no, but if all you say is no, you are not keeping up your end of the arrangement in any way that is going to keep you from crashing and burning. Yep, you are married now, that doesn’t mean you stop caring at all about your appearance and let yourself go to the point where yous spouse literally finds sex a chore because they are not physically attracted to you... etc etc etc. Yes a woman can do those things and when the marriage crashes and burns say with honesty she never cheated.... but that is no absolution. Marriage is a partnership and a comprimise, too many women think its there way or the highway, and act shocked when the men they are with finally say fine, I’m going to see whats on the highway... and then go insane that their husband found something on the highway, and not only that, that she was prettier and/or younger.