But if you are talking legally...the only reason another non-rated person should be "flying the plane" is while receiving dual instruction from a certified flight instructor. If you are not a CFI and going to let your 12 year old daughter handle the controls I wouldn't go bragging about it to the FAA...
Since I have no pilots license at all but know many pilots, I can safely say I am in no danger from the FAA. You are equivocating!