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You gave it a the old college try...i wouldn’t say you were shallow at all...pretty tacky of him to comment on your niece’s gift also.

Well that I did (the old college try). I realized early on that he had some quirkiness to his personally. But I had hoped that his better traits would out weigh them out. And he did have some good traits, hard working, thrifty, patriotic, and conservative. But as time went by I saw some darker sides to his personality, his constant feuding with his sister over money, his obsession with money or more the point, spending as little as possible combined with his distrust of his neighbors, almost bordering on paranoia – they all had it in for him according to him and an increasing controlling personality that I didn’t care for.

And speaking of paranoia, we went to a local farm show and right before we left I saw him put into his shorts pocket, what looked like a spray can. When I asked him what it was he said it was a can of mase. When I asked him why he felt it necessary to arm himself with a can of mase, he said that there was lots of gang activity in our county. To which I replied, “Yep, I’ve heard those 4-H’ers can be a pretty brutal bunch” which made him pretty angry.

It wasn’t very long after that that I broke up with him.

I went on a 1st date with a gal one time and she spent half the date telling me about her old boyfriend of the last 2 years...she was trying to get him off of crack...she was a nice, decent person but she went on and on about how she tried to help this guy...he of course went out of control and it ended....she was a teacher at a catholic school and was big into the church...we talked on the phone the next few nights and i told her i wasn’t particularly religous...that was her deal breaker she told me...it ended there....now this coming from a woman that spent 2 years with a crack head....it did wonders for my self esteem....i laugh about it now but boy did i replay in my head what was wrong with ME...why wasn’t i at least worth another date...i kinda figured i was a little too boring for her...shouldn’t slapped her around a little.../joke ;)