[Judith Anne]

I just went back and read the initial post I made, it’s clear that I’m protective of MY family, much more than concerned about the 3 yo.

I’m not heartless, but I just have the feeling that the mother of this little 3 yo boy wouldn’t hesitate to cause harm or make accusations to my daughter or her children if something, God forbid, should happen to her neglected 3 yo.

Shame on me, it is still my biggest concern.

[Tainan]

I'm going to side with Marie2 & CA on this one. IMO if one can be a good example for a 'lost' kid its a positive thing. I know the worries one has now a days, but, again IMO, its worth it if it helps the kid.
I'm not criticizing your decisions, just giving another perspective.

I've got a 13 yr old and had a few kids like this who were/are friends of his. Sometimes a kid just needs a place to feel secure. They need to know where the walls are that hold their life.

[Travis T. OJustice]

Shame on me, it is still my biggest concern.

As it should be! And you are well within your rights. Good on ya, mom/grandmom! By extension, you are also looking out for the 3yo's interests, and doing the right thing!