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I think pre marital sex is wrong which is why I didn’t engage in it. Partly because of my Faith and partly because of my parents. It’s what we’re trying to teach our kids. However, I don’t think it’s anything all that new or shocking.

Children should have two parents, a mom and a dad, imo. Preferably, they should be married, committed, love each other. During Father’s Day, the homily always ends with the best thing a father can do for his children is love their mother. I happen to think the best thing a mother can do for the children is love their father.

I don’t think using marriage, which I consider a Sacrament, the best thing for anyone involved in raising a child. My viewpoint has changed over the years. Back in high school, I couldn’t understand why pregnant students wouldn’t be allowed to attend school if they married (Catholic high school). They were allowed to attend if they were pregnant but not if they were married. As a teen, I couldn’t understand that. Now, I do. Marriage is a Sacrament. It’s not something that should be entered into for other reasons, or for reasons of convenience.

IF the people involved enter into marriage they should do so for the right reasons. I don’t get a say in those reasons. With Bristol and Levi, getting married for the wrong reasons isn’t the answer. That baby still has a father and mother. He still has grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins, etc. He has family. He has family that seem to love him and will support him financially and otherwise.

Personally, for me, the best scenario is two people get married because they love each other and want to spend their lives together, then have sex, children, and stay married, etc.

If it can be avoided, meaning both are getting married with the idea that it’s forever, a committment, and not just a convenience for anyone, it’s the best thing to do.

But, that committted father doesn’t have to be married to the mother either, imo. He can still be a father, just like she can be a mother. It’s like divorce for me. It’s not something I can see happen to me but know many who have divorced. The fathers I know are still committed to their children.