I’m a family law lawyer too. One of my collegues calls this “reconciliation sex.” He says he doesn’t know from personal experience, having been, like me, married forever but that his clients seem to think it’s great. Some people enjoy chaos. It’s like a drug. I learned a long time ago (been doing this over 30 years) not to trust an abused woman. Sorry, I know that there are good people out there who really are victims but all too often, they are playing out some junk in their minds and/or chlldhoods and go with/stay with the abuser because it’s actually more rewarding to them than a normal relationahip.
Trust, but verify.
I am with you. I know some abused women from my past involvement with CPS and other useless governemt agencies.
SOME (not all) deserve everything they get.
It is NOT ALWAYS THE MANS FAULT as the media would want you to believe
Some of these women have a screw loose. It's been going on since forever. There's some Parisian doggerel that goes along the lines of, "Colin's beating up his mistress/ Never mind, it will end in kisses."
Not all women who have been abused get addicted to that excitement. I hope you’re just really jaded because of your client base, observing the women who are... (?)
In my white trash neighborhood, had a man beating the snot out of his wife in the street. Several men were pulling him off when the police showed up to physically and agressively arrest the thug. The woman jumped on the cops back for hurting her man.
Seem same scenario repeated on COPS to many times to care anymore.
I wondered why some women, who are beated to mush, go back to the abuser, often before the wounds are healed.
They are as sick as their partner is brutal.
My first husband treated beating the crp out of me like a hobby. I was only 20 when I married and divorced by 24. I was lucky I got out alive. The thing is that it isn’t always about beign together it’s more about being afraid of dying sometimes.Mine fianlly was taken out of the house by the SWAT team after he called the police to tell them he was killing me and then himself.It took a long time to find the exact right time to get out without being afraid of being killed. Leaving while he was in jail was my opportunity.So please don’t think it is always bout wanting to be together, sometimes it more about survival.