All I can advise is be comfortable in your own skin. Etiquette was always based on the Golden Rule and practicality — there was no other point to it. Some of it was over-the-top, but most was a simple bow to making others feel at home and being able to enjoy each other’s company. As long as no one is uncomfortable, including you, you've met all the requirements.
As a dear, dear friend once said, “It's okay to break the rules — so long as you know you have done so.” I agree.
I have enjoyed the stroll down Etiquette Lane and onto Manner Court. Thank you! Few remember.