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Oh isn’t that clever. 21st Century America can’t distinguish the love of an adoptive parent for his child from an owner for his dog and that’s somehow the parent’s weakness.

Ohhhhhhhhhhhh, you hit two soft spots. An adopted child may have a personality different from his adopting parents. This can cause family strife and cause the child to act out. I know because my firstborn grandson was adopted out to a very loving family. In his late teen years he was sent to live with his adoptive grandparents because of the strife he caused in the home (he has three adopted siblings). Why the strife? Since reconnecting with my daughter it became clear to him why he felt "different" from his parents. He is like his birth mother and not his adoptive parents or siblings. His adoptive parents had promised to locate his birth mom when they adopted him (private adoption), if he asked. They lied to him when he did and told him his birth mother did not want contact. So he lashed out at them.

An adopted dog only has personality problems if its bred into him or he's trained to be vicious. Even "mean" dogs who are scared of humans can come around to being sweet lap type dogs if given time and human companionship. I know from first hand experience with a dog who was tied out in the yard the first six months of her life. When she was adopted by a friend with a kennel, 2 years ago, she wouldn't allow ANY human contact. Gradually she's become the sweetest lab mix and will "grin" on command. She loves to be brushed, too.

If a person adopts a child to be that child's forever family it is not much different from a person adopting a dog (or cat) and promising to be that pet's forever family.