That’s too bad, even just plinking is a blast (no pun intended.) If you’re in a state that allows CCW, she should really reconsider. Can imagine that’s frustrating for you.
Myself, I enjoy practicing self-defense techniques. (Too bad I haven’t done it in over a year... got to get out and do it soon.)
I live in Colorado and before that in Florida. I have had CCW permits in both states for a long time. My wife doesn’t like any loud or sudden noises like thunder, fireworks or loud guns. She can shoot well with the Aguila Collibri 22 ammo which doesn’t make much noise.