I like to think of my dear Old Granny, who was a major influence on my life. She used to say, "Billy, you catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar."
She was a tough old Lady, in an age when you could be tough and a lady, family went west in the 1840's.
LOL!
Now why would I want to be catching flies? (I swat them with a rolled up newspaper).
And your granny sounds a lot like my Grandma Zip...And she earned every bit of steel in her spirit.
As for alphas, my life is perfect as it is, I want nothing mroe than my work, dance, friends and books.....