[Little Bill]

You sound like my Kids Great Aunt Emma, the Witch of Endor according to them, she has much the same argument, it is not a question of what you have, it is how you come across. Those thing that you may give them might be cool, but will they think you are cool, you can't pass on a sense of humor.

My Dear Woman much of what you say, I am ten years older than you, sounds like an excuse.

[najida]

And excuse for what? Not choosing the path you think I should have chosen?

I’ve been married twice and widowed twice—— I’ve been a foster mother because I couldn’t have children. I’m being the best Aunt to my niece and nephew I can be because I’m all they’ll have (no grandparents or other aunts on either side of the family)..... So they’re stuck with me ;)

And I know myself better now than when I did 10 years ago. Out of the life I’ve been given, I’ve forged happiness. And it’s far better when I was married—— FAR better.

Now, because it’s not what you think is happy, doesn’t give it any less value. And as you yourself have said, I’m a fishwife and a scold-— why would you want to inflict me on any poor man? ;) And yes, this is far more the ‘real’ me than the woman I was when I was married and attempting to be docile (didn’t work).

The more I read, the more I believe you think I should become someone I’m not to live a life that isn’t mine by desire or destiny-—

I ask you,
Why does it matter? In the bastion of individuality, why does it matter to you?