I too did that, I was miserable. Although to give the devil his due, we married more for the idea of love and combining incomes more than an understanding of how much work it can be to be mature responsible adults. I wouldn't wish that lesson on anyone.
Although the alone thing is an interesting point. I have been alone and not lonely, perhaps wishing for someone to do things with, and then I have been with people and been more lonely than I could stand.
A girlfriend of mine goes out constantly, she's extremely gregarious and has the view point of having fun and not looking. She got burned badly last year. I'm completely opposite, not so gregarious. I don't do well in huge groups..you'll find me hugging the wall and trying to escape out the sliding door. Plus that whole jumping in and out of beds thing that some people do, complete and utter turn off. (shudder)
I agree. I'm not lonely (don't have time) because my job and family keep me running. The longer I'm single though.....the more I've come to enjoy it.
I was 17 when I married the first time.. and that lasted 26yrs. I was single and living with Mom for 2 years after that ....then married again...to that "friend" I spoke of. We held it together for almost 4 years.... and now ....I've been single and living alone for 5 years. It's beginning to feel very comfortable.