I have no experience with leprosy, but I know I don't want it.
I have no experience swimming with piranha; yet I feel confident in advising parents not to let their children jump into a river full of them.
Your contention that because I don't have teenagers I am unqualified to criticize the decisions of parents who do, is ludicrous. This is exactly the type of liberal thinking that says, "only a member of a group is allowed to be critical of the group." Not true. I do not need to be a rapist or a rape victim to be critical of the act of rape, nor do I need to be a murderer or a murder vivtim to condemn the act of murder.
On the subject we are discussing, however, I am a parent. That, in your way of thinking, should at least entitle me to some credibility in forming an opinion on this issue. My opinion is this: The parents of this woman failed her.
I'm now more compassionate toward the parents of difficult kids because even the best parents and the best kids can take a wrong step.
Kids and parents will make mistakes all the time, I know I do. Problems arise when parents-and children-are allowed to make the same mistakes over and over and over with no real consequences. Sometimes when the consequences come from outside the parent-child relationship, the consequences seem harsh and disproportionate-like having to bury an 18 year old cheerleader that wanted a bigger rack. It is not fair, but it could have been prevented.
BTW, parents don't necessarily have to pay for boob jobs. As long as Visa and Mastercard offer credit cards to 18-year-old girls, they can do what they like.
It seems to me that the most likely way an 18 year old, high school student gets money to have her chest expanded to porn star proportions is from her family. It is much less of a stretch for me to believe this than for me to believe the (blame the predatory credit card companies) Visa/Mastercard scenario you propose. Why do you keep making excuses for this woman and her parents? They were the last ones that could have averted this situation, yet you seem unwilling to lay any culpability at their feet.
Finally, I would be willing to wager that today the parents of this woman wish someone had told them the things I am saying here prior to her having this elective procedure.
Where did you read she was having her chest expanded to porn star proportions?
I am curious- I hadn’t seen that
Frankly it seems like a bit of armchair quarterbacking when someone who has not raised a child to adulthood criticizes the failings of those of us who have done so. That’s not much different than if I criticized a ski racer when I am a competent but not professional skier.
I agree with you that if these parents subsidized their daughter’s cosmetic procedure they are at fault. But you don’t know that that’s the case, and you are sounding awfully judgmental. As you may someday learn, teenage girls have minds of their own and a good deal of financial autonomy. One of my daughter’s friends is planning to have a boob job next year, and there’s not a damned thing her parents can do about it as she is independent and legally an adult.
I just hope you will never find out the hard way how difficult previously angelic young girls can be. They can surprise you. In any case, good luck, and best wishes to you and your daughter for the next years.