And I have a select few friends who are either fellow planners or close enough friends that I would take them in because I know they work and do their part.<<<
That says it all and you are lucky that you have friends who will pull their own weight.
Dr. Bill has said several times to use laundry soap, most of the girl type products have extra oils in them, which will bind the nuclear particles to you, rather than washing them away.
I'm a weirdo in that I'm allergic to most kinds of soaps and things that have a fragrance added. In the last 10 years I've thought maybe that was a gift from God so that I just have the plain stuff here in case of emergency. This is one of the reasons that I started growing so many fragrant plants! I love the scents but I'm not allergic to most of the plants in the natural. Except rosemary, too much rosemary makes me sneeze and break out if I rub it on my skin. This, I think, is part of my overall allergy as lots of rosemary is used as a base in many of the fragrant products. Oddly, I am also *very* allergic to eucalyptus. Makes my throat close up and wheeze. I guess I'm just backward.