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Infidelity: Desperately seeking someone
London Telegraph ^ | 21/01/2008 | Angela Levin

Posted on 01/20/2008 4:48:41 PM PST by Aristotelian

In the digital age, having an affair has never been easier. Author Angela Levin spent five months interviewing middle-class professionals for an extensive study that charts the rise of the no-strings-attached* relationship. In the first of a three-part investigation, she reveals why the UK is in the grip of an infidelity epidemic.

'Been left parked in the garage of marriage too long, battery getting flat and needs somebody to give it a spark of life, full tank and ready to go.

"Present owner does not like going for a ride any more but am not up for sale. Seeking discreet lady mechanic, preferably married, to enjoy some NSA run-outs together."

This advert was posted by John, a 44-year-old married IT manager on a popular dating website favoured by men like him who want no-strings-attached (NSA) relationships.

"I try to make my adverts witty because I don't want sex with someone who doesn't have a sense of humour," the father-of-two explained. "At the same time, I want whoever she is to know from the start that if she is after a relationship, she can forget it.

"I have no intention of leaving my wife. I realise it sounds funny to say I care about her, but I do. I am just a bit bored."

(Excerpt) Read more at telegraph.co.uk ...


TOPICS: Society
KEYWORDS: adultery; dating; hookingup; infidelity; marriage; moralabsolutes; morality; promiscuity
Call me naive, but I had no idea the Net was being used so aggressively for extramarital affairs -- or "no-strings-attached (NSA) relationships" as the article calls them.
1 posted on 01/20/2008 4:48:42 PM PST by Aristotelian
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3 posted on 01/20/2008 4:53:43 PM PST by wagglebee ("A political party cannot be all things to all people." -- Ronald Reagan, 3/1/75)
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To: Aristotelian

I think young folks call it ‘hooking up’, since emotional connections, much less romance, are so ‘uncool’.


4 posted on 01/20/2008 5:08:16 PM PST by Lucius Cornelius Sulla (Mike Huckabee: If Gomer Pyle and Hugo Chavez had a love child this is who it would be.)
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To: Aristotelian
...I realise it sounds funny to say I care about her, but I do. I am just a bit bored.

Lazy jerk.

Hey, fat-head! It's not your poor wife: It's you! Only boring people get bored.

5 posted on 01/20/2008 5:12:02 PM PST by bannie (clintons CHEAT! AAAALLWAYS!)
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To: bannie
Only boring people get bored.

Well said.

6 posted on 01/20/2008 5:27:02 PM PST by Fiddlstix (Warning! This Is A Subliminal Tagline! Read it at your own risk!(Presented by TagLines R US))
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To: Aristotelian
This really sums is all up:

We also live in a me-generation, and fewer of us are prepared to compromise on the kind of life we want.

7 posted on 01/20/2008 7:09:44 PM PST by Jaded ("I have a mustard- seed; and I am not afraid to use it."- Joseph Ratzinger)
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To: bannie

Exactly.....

Your wife isn’t interested in sex? Ever thought it was YOU that turned her off?


8 posted on 01/20/2008 7:13:00 PM PST by najida (I am so grateful that stupid isn't contagious.)
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To: najida

This is nothing new. Check your local “alternative” newspaper. The personal ads are rife with this sort of thing.

Internet just makes “it” more easily obtained.


9 posted on 01/20/2008 8:12:11 PM PST by Ouderkirk (Hillary = Senator Incitatus, Clintigula's whore...er, horse.)
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To: bannie

“Only boring people get bored.”

Been telling my kids that since they were old enough to get bored!

Cheers

Mel


10 posted on 01/20/2008 9:26:33 PM PST by melsec (A Proud Aussie)
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To: Lucius Cornelius Sulla
And yet you can't avoid attachments or connections, even if you want to, because we're wired for attachment. Women in particular (think oxytocin) can start out saying "whee, no strings" and end up discovering, to their surprise, "I'm tied up in knots."

I think that's why so many women who "do" promiscuity or infidelity also deliberately go blotto with alcohol. Because when they're in their right minds, they can't stand what they're doing.

11 posted on 01/21/2008 7:14:13 AM PST by Mrs. Don-o (Make love. Accept no substitutes.)
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To: Aristotelian

Can’t wait for the public orgies, vomitoriums and feeding Christians to the lions to come back. Tic, tic, tic, tic...


12 posted on 01/21/2008 8:05:44 AM PST by polymuser (Don't vote for Kennedy Wing of the GOP)
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To: melsec

13 posted on 01/21/2008 9:00:19 AM PST by bannie (clintons CHEAT! AAAALLWAYS!)
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To: Mrs. Don-o

I think they want more out of life
but eventually they only get less.

satisfaction once so
easy to grasp
is found out of reach

“”I like the fact that I don’t get involved in talking about mundane stuff like problems with the washing machine or little Billy’s latest upset at school. I get those passion-killers at home. Instead, I wipe out everything that is going on in my life for a couple of hours.””

I think Billy would really, really like to read this.

If life’s experiences are preperations for events upcoming in our lives....then what does this prepare people for...?

“Anyone who seeks a casual fling needs to have a cast-iron emotional constitution.

Re-assurance or tenderness isn’t part of the deal. It’s a take it or leave it situation, although it’s not always expressed in such basic terms. He, and particularly she, also needs to understand the difference between lust and love and try to protect their heart as well as their health - and that of their spouse. The health risks of HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases are well-known, but the risk of psychological damage, particularly for the vulnerable and needy, can be underestimated.”

I read your comment, is it that way with the alcohol and anesthetising themselves?


14 posted on 01/23/2008 10:00:00 PM PST by fishhound
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To: fishhound
I think so. Frankly, I never knew a woman who was sexually promiscuous who was not also an alcoholic. They may not start off that way, but they end up that way.
15 posted on 01/24/2008 4:57:27 AM PST by Mrs. Don-o (Sorry: Tag-line presently at the dry cleaners. Please find suitable bumper-sticker instead.)
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