Often? I refuse to believe that.
Seems there is one common thread in virtually ALL of these guys. Violence.
The wife and the entire family fears they will be killed.
Either that, or they've been mentally and emotionally neutered...which I guess is what you implied above.
;^)
Well, I cannot speak to other cases, but I can tell you that in the case of my wife’s mother, it is purely denial. She refuses to believe that which all evidence indicates happened, and it is purely because of her need to have a man. The rest of her family has told me a great deal about it. When her first husband got sent to the pen, she immediately began hitting the bars and such, leaving her kids with the grandparents.. and she openly stated that she was hunting for a husband. Virtually every nite she would drag one scumbag or another home.
Some women have a strong dependancy for a man in their life, any man, no matter how much of a lowlife they are. These women have serious issues regarding their own self-worth, and seem to base their self-worth in a man.
I have no clue as to why my mother-in-law turned out as she did. My wife’s grandparents are the nicest, most decent people you could ever meet, and their other daughters are (other than an obsession with materialism on the part of one of them) quite normal and decent people.
All the stuff my wife endured, and yet she is one of the most caring people you will ever meet. She is one of those people who worries herself sick over the problems of other people. I have always been amazed that she turned out as good as she did, knowing what I know of her childhood.
You should see how indignant my wife gets when she hears some scumbag justifying their bad acts by claiming they had a bad childhood. Few people have more justification than my wife does, and yet she turned out to be a decent human being.
She is wonderful... I do not deserve her.