Donations for what????? For a mom who would rather not be alone that to protect her child? Do we really believe that this guy was a model stepfather up until now, that no one noticed anything???? Do not donate ANYTHING to these people. The only innocent person in this is DEAD (Rowan)!
I am assuming it is for the funeral fund. Personally, I am pretty much in agreement with you about sending money. I would have little problem kicking in some for funeral expenses and perhaps a nice gravemarker... but I do not like the idea that any funds left over would go to the family. Such excess funds should go to the Crime Victims compensation fund.
As for myself, my wife and I decided we would rather just buy some flowers, which I delivered to the church a couple hours ago.