Thanks. Everyone is having trouble dealing with my father’s Alzheimer’s, and they’re taking their understandable grief and frustration out on each other. I have a couple of letters to write, to the tune of “I sympathize will all parties, but I will not be involved in this dispute,” and then I’ll just pray for it to blow over, hopefully without any of them making Dad unhappy.
The “nice” thing about Alzheimer’s is that the person who has it is blissfully unaware of the turmoil the disease causes in the lives of others.
I have a friend in TX whose mother has Alzheimer’s. The mom went to Corpus Christi recently, and she calls the daughter probably 20 times a day, forgetting, of course, that she has already called.
She’s on meds for it, but this daughter is the sole caretaker, as no one else wants the “bother.” She understands how the disease affects her mother, but that doesn’t make it easier for her to deal with.
She finally talked her sister into taking the mom for a week so she could get some much-needed rest.
The best thing you can do is to send the letters. And hold your ground.