My sobriety date is 11/11/06 so I am quite new at this.
For me, there was, and had to be a crisis point - a bottom, if you will. For me, that did not involve immediate homlessness / bankruptcy / prison / death. But, I had to realize and understand that those scenarios were indeed possible if my existing behavior continued.
I was also a happy, congenial, hale fellow well met, when I was in my cups. I held down a good job; got excellent reviews and promotions.
I also had (and have) a truckload of character flaws and emotional issues that I dealt with by applying the anesthesia of ethyl alcohol.
My bottom was facing the loss of my job, due to drinking on the job. By the grace of God, my employer allowed me a final chance to get my act together. I seized that opportunity with the desparation of the dying, as our literature tells us we must have.
I initially reached out to this board and this group.
I was directed to AA and I went. From the very first meeting, I began to understand the nature of the battle. I was told that I did not have to drink and I could not drink “one day ay a time.”
I had to begin to learn humility and acceptance of reality. And that is a daily thing.
God Bless you and keep you sober, don-o!