Thank you so much for sharing your story. I’m glad that you are able to help your friend with his addiction!
I was lucky enough to know someone in the program who pulled me aside one day and said “You know, it is ok to get outside help for other problems. I know where you are. Been there and done that. I may not be happy, joyous and free, but I sure have my moments of being content!”
So, I went off to the VA hospital for an eval. The clinical staff were amazed that I was not using booze or any kind of meds or street drugs. My VA clinician told me one day “Suffering is optional”. I got into treatment for chronic combat PTSD and haven’t looked back since.
I can honestly say that now, I am clean and sober. I feel good most of the time. Having a neurological disorder is a bummer. However, although it is not curable, it is treatable.
My old life required alcohol. My new one does not.