I've read a lot on the topic. There is definitely truth in what you say: "Facts and reality dont stop them for believing what they WANT to believe. It tickles the imagination. Reality isnt as exciting ...
So, what you have to do, is search for the serious researchers, who are trying to find the truth. In my opinion, the best is Jacques Vallee. Here are some Amazon links:
1. Challenge to Science : the UFO Enigma
2. Dimensions: A Casebook of Alien Contact
So have most of the rest of us. Also we have been listening to the Art Bell Show since last century. We have also been watching the sky since Roswell and nothing has gone Unidentified, not even the candles and dry cleaning bag thing (Phoenix is still wondering). Excepting the rubber dummies they dropped by parachute that one day.