You missed nothing IMO, sorry about your father.
Thanks kinoxi. I see you are a fellow Marylander. I have to tell you that my mother is very down-to-earth and has never had an interest or even spoke about this topic before. I also have to say that in her deepest grief in the weeks and months following my father’s death, she mentioned nothing of any of this. I wasn’t until about a year and a half to two years later that things started happening. I don’t know what is going on, but I know my mother and know she isn’t ill, inventing things, or hallucinating. It was actually hard to get anything out of her.