[PayNoAttentionManBehindCurtain]

I understand her fear too...I've been there done that...But in the 2 years I've been riding with her, the horse she had first never did anything....nothing...he was great...she has also bought 3 horses and tried them, and one several people including myself told her it would not work, but she went ahead.

I've told her numerous times, her horse is fine, and that if she would just ride more consistently she would feel better...she rides one time then it's a month before I see her again. Different horses are not the answer, she has been told that by others besides me.

I've come to the conclusion the "others" have all worn thin with her too, and that's why she's been calling me to ride. I don't mean to be unkind, but it's time for her to "listen" to others and not just to her mind building up boogies that aren't there.

Sounds to me like you DID it, good for you. She just talks about it, and todays episode, her wanting me to wait in case she got over it was just too much for my patience.

Becky

[tuffydoodle]

If someone asked me to wait to ride, to see if she felt like it in an hour, I'd tell her to go jump in a lake.

[BladeRider]

I've come to the conclusion the "others" have all worn thin with her too, and that's why she's been calling me to ride. I don't mean to be unkind, but it's time for her to "listen" to others and not just to her mind building up boogies that aren't there.

I agree with you 100%. Worrying about it just makes the anxiety more intense. She is letting her fear control her life.