Will you let me know if her family (that includes her military family too, of course), needs anything?
As I learn more, I'll keep everyone informed. Sympathy cards, definitely. Flowers, possibly. Anything more will depend on what I can find out.
I'm in email contact with his CO in Iraq, and family support officer in Germany. I have the dates (no times set yet) of the visitation and the funeral, and the address of the funeral home. Freepmail me for the details.
Aside from cards and flowers, a contribution to their family support fund would be good. It was also mentioned that a nice game console for the troops out in the sandbox would be much appreciated for their sparse off-duty hours. Maybe an X-Box with a plaque on it, and a pile of games? This would be a longer-timeframe item.