I'm not against circumcision, but I would think if the boy didn't want it done, it might be ...traumatizing?
Of course it would be. If you chose to get it done, they do it right after the baby is born. I can not imagine a 9 yr old wanting to face that. Maybe the mother & father or a DR need to explain to the boy how to keep himself clean. That could be why its red and sore.
Most 9 year olds, male or female, don't even want a splinter removed.