"We all survived w/o counselors.
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Yes, and so have many who have had tragedy occur around them. On the other hand, I cannot see the harm in counselors in such situations. Since I can't see the harm, I can't find any reason to whine about them.
I agree to the extent that those involved ASK for counseling. I have met a number of "counselors' who belie the term and cause more harm than good.