This is all about punishing men for women's insecurities, isn't it?
Sex is an appetite. As in your analogy, the problem there is if the hubby looks at you like meatloaf.
Now what if you had a hubby who just loved women -- including you? What if he looked at you like cake, and other women like Pizza?
Clearly, looking and imagining isn't cheating. Any more than fantasizing about killing your boss makes you a murderer.
No,
it's about educating both genders about how they think...
and it started with a statement to the effect that men don't understand how women think on the subject.
I was simply giving insight...
It isn't about insecurity,
it's about value and trust....it's about knowing that what you have with them is very special and more than with anyone else....
And if a man looks at another woman with more interest and joy....even if it's just looking....
Well...The energy that goes into just the look is a dagger through many a woman's heart.
Not logical, just fact.
But it hurts, alot.
Just information. (granted, I am extremely cynical and have a dark view of a lot of things ;))
Oh, as for my boss,
I have the best one in the world....
Employees though, is another story.
However, I didn't fantasize....I kept excellent records, was patient and persistant and got her butt booted out the door.
I didn't waste anytime on imagination.
Just like a rotten spouse I guess. :)