I suspect by inviting his older sister to peruse the site, the younger brother was asking for implied endorsement of the things therein. If she does not object to these things, he can be forgiven for thinking that his sister considers the drinking and such to be "cool", and not a problem.
The little brother has really put his sister in a difficult position. She should not feel too guilty if his toes are stepped on as a result.
Plus, binge drinking in a 13-year-old is the express ticket to alcoholism. A kid does not have a clue on how to handle alcohol. The same can be said of some adults, but it is true of just about every 13-year-old. Somebody needs to intervene.
You have a very good point...
I kind of wondered if CindyDawg wasn't right in #17... i.e., that he may be uncomfortable with the stuff his friends are up to but doesn't have the moral courage to say so & is looking for another 'out'.
Bingo, I think you have hit the nail on the head. Because I am so much older than him, we have had more of a friends kind of relationship because we did not really grow up together. I was at college when he was a small child.
He adores my husband and thinks he is very "cool" because they like a lot of the same music. My husband loves jam bands, Rolling Stones, Steely Dan, Traffic, etc. but does not exactly fit the stoner, hippie lifestyle! He is a devout Catholic, 31 years old, professional married man. I think my brother thinks we are lot "cooler" than we really are!
I think he forgets this and figures that as long as I/we don't say anything, we approve.
I love my brother and want the best for him; I appreciate a lot of the suggestions I've gotten so far. Thank you all -