Uh huh,
There is a HUGE 'erotica' industry for women that is growing by leaps and bounds..... business is business. As far as men seeing it as lame, erm, not according to the husbands of the women who read/watch it....a few are downright shocked at the ideas it gives their wimmen >:>
And more and more is being built, writen, taped etc geared towards females. I mean, Hitachi ain't making bucks just off its tractors.
This isn't about how women look (I mean, it's nice your wife was gorgeous) but how they feel about themselves, their bodies and most of all, their right to pleasure. Women are carnal creatures, just like men. Men don't always like it, but it's what is.
Again, you almost sound clueless about female sexuality.....or at least way out of touch (the lay back remark was kind of a giveaway).
No the "lay back" quote was no give away to anything except your ability to read things into a remark which are not there. Women can have sex even if they are not interested in it and can just lay back. In fact, that is how they were taught to tolerate it for centuries when they were told they had to accept the beastly attentions of the male. Men can almost never have sex unless they are interested in it which is why the female appearance plays such a large role in stimulating desire. They cannot just lay back or someone will be disappointed at least in intercourse. Of course, there are other alternatives than intercourse.
It is no secret that women's sexuality can be increased and men like it. One of my wife's favorites was the movie of a dance version of Carmen. Made her hotter than a firecracker yet the male dancer (Spanish guy you being a dancer you may be familiar with the movie) was neither handsome, well built or anything like that. But he could dance.
As to my being out of touch. You have nothing to base such an opinion on and my lady friends would tell you nothing could be further from the truth.